You have undoubtedly heard of “Alpha Males” before. Most people associate this term with an animal species: the strongest and toughest gorilla or lion that rules over the others and gets first crack at the food and the most desirable females.
In the minds of some men, the whole idea of “Alpha Males” has a negative connotation. Maybe to them it means the big jock who used to rule their high school, bullying the weaker kids and getting the most attractive women. Or perhaps you work with an Alpha Male: a “man’s man” who always shows confidence and energy, and always gets what he’s after. Maybe he’s difficult to work for, but you gotta respect the guy.
However you choose to define Alpha Males, most men suffer under the conviction that some of us were always destined to be the Alphas, and the rest of us are destined to be “shy guys” or “nice guys” who can only have the leftovers and don’t even know how to get a girls phone number. But the stone-cold reality is that every of one of us possesses an Alpha Male within us. So right now I want to give you a few quick tips on how to become an Alpha Male, which come from my own personal experiences.
How To Become An Alpha Male, Tip #1: Displaying your Alpha Male side means projecting charm, confidence and charisma with men AND women. It’s important for you to always develop your social network! It’s crucial for you to grasp this concept. I know a lot of men who have studied “pickup” material because they basically want to learn how to become an Alpha Male. A lot of them become more successful with talking to women and can occasionally pick up a girl, yet they continue to feel intimidated or hostile towards other guys – particularly dudes who they feel are more handsome or socially dominant than they are, or guys who are getting more attention from women.
I know that when you go out, the chief ambition is to meet girls, but forging new alliances with “Alpha” guys is going to benefit your long-term game. Make this a part of your new routine: when you’re at a bar, club, or party — and you see dudes who have cool, positive energy and are sending out positive energy and getting attention from the ladies — introduce yourself to them. Strike up a conversation with a dude who’s been getting attention from the ladies — say to him, “Hey man, it looks like you’re doing pretty well with the ladies tonight. Nice job.” Chances are, this guy will be friendly towards you and he’ll gladly share some wisdom. Now you’ve added a powerful friend and wingman to your social network.
The benefits can be quite powerful when you widen your social network to involve Alpha Male friends — who will invite you to cool events and activities, and introduce you to other people particularly women who you wouldn’t have otherwise met. The truth is, when you’re seen hanging out and having fun with Alpha Males, your “status” rises in the eyes of girls. Your social value is perceived to be higher.
If you usually go to the same old bars, with the same old buddies of yours guys who lack skills and confidence with girls, it’s time for you to “upgrade” and start hanging out with new people who are confident and super-social.
How To Become An Alpha Male, Tip #2: My second quick tip on how to become an Alpha Male is that you have to stop being “wishy-washy” and be DECISIVE when you are around women. Lay out a path for women to follow along with. I’m not trying to sound like a chauvenist here, but it’s the truth. Most girls would rather not be in the position of having to decide where to have dinner, or which movie to go see. When a man is continually deferring to her and asking HER to come up with the plans and ideas about what to do, she will actually feel quite uncomfortable around him — because he does not project masculinity and leadership. It seems like he is comfortable with making decisions. It’s crucial for you to show girls that you’re not emotionally needy, and you are comfortable with stepping up and making decisions.
When decisions need to be made, it’s important for you to be able to step up and express how you think it should go. Even if it’s as insignificant as deciding where to go eat or have coffee. She might not always agree, but she will respect the fact that you have a definite opinion.
WEAK MOVE: “Maybe if you’re not busy this weekend, we could, like, meet up and do something…”
ALPHA MOVE: “So what’s your favorite funny movie of all time? I’ll rent it, and we can check it out Friday night at my house while I cook dinner for us.” Or, “You mentioned you love Thai food. I know about this terrific restaurant that most people don’t know about, and I want to show it to you. I’ll pick you up Friday night at o’clock.”
How To Become An Alpha Male, Tip #3: Leave them wanting more. True Alpha Males – whether it’s a business mogul, or a Hollywood star – are very busy people. They’re not going to grant you endless amounts of their time. Your mindset should be the same with the ladies. Basically, you want to play it so that you are the one wrapping up the interaction first, whether it’s a first encounter at a club, or a phone call to set up a date.
See, the run-of-the-mill guy will talk… and talk… until the woman winds up saying, “I have to go find my friend” or “it was cool chatting with you, but I need to be up early tomorrow…” As an Alpha Male, you must ALWAYS have a purpose in mind when you talk to a girl, and achieve that objective before the exchange ends. If you’re rapping with a woman you met at a party, your goal could be to score her phone number. If you call her phone, the object might be to establish when you’re going to meet up with her again. When all’s said and done, you’ve got to have a plan, a plan, and a tactic to pull it off.
You never want to prolong it to the point where she has to come up with a reason to excuse herself. This puts you in a position of weakness, because it makes you look like you’ve got nothing else going on See, when you’re the one to end the conversation, you make her wonder… “hmm, he isn’t like most guys I’ve met. He probably has a lot of interesting things going on in his life. What other girls is he seeing? Why does he always need to go do something else when I call him on the phone to chat?”